What does it mean to grow into a man?
Research on gender roles (http://www.psychologyofmen.org/male-gender-role/) reveal the following positive traits:
A set of studies and papers focusing on positive traits associated with traditional concepts of masculinity (Hammer & Good, 2010; Kiselica et al, 2008; O’Neil, 2008; Levant, 1992). A recently presented framework for this focuses on the following 10 “strengths” of masculinity (Kiselica & Englar-Carlson, 2010):
The Vermont Boychoir encourages our boys to embrace manhood
How we encourage our boys to develop traditional concepts of masculinity:
- Every boy has a task assigned to him that provides for others, participates in the team effort, and if not completed causes the group to suffer in some way.
- Every boy protects others in the group and sympathizes with others by listening, counselling, and following up on decisions that help.
- Every boy is taught to focus his efforts on making the concert work while keeping an eye on helping others who may need help to fulfill their task.
- Every boy is taught to take responsibility for any activity that must be done and by thinking for himself, to overcome adversity to “get the job done”
- Every boy raises funds that are used to provide real benefits for the members. For example, a boy may pay for a meal, purchase gasoline, pay for dry-cleaning, purchase folders or items like hats, etc.
- Every boy engages in the larger community by studying the boychoir world, corresponding with other choirs, discovering opportunities for the Vermont Boychoir to collaborate with or help choirs in the area, etc.
- Every boy is encouraged to sing a solo, conduct a song, speak with the audience, hand out flyers or programs, etc.
- Every year the choir selects one charity or nonprofit organization that serves boys or men and participates in their fundraising effort or performs a service for the organization.
- Every boy learns a dozen clean jokes that he shares with others
- Every boy reads a biography of a male hero and reports what that person did to earn the accolade or title “Hero.”